Dating Your Friends Ex - Should You Go There?

There are many risky elements that will always be associated when dating your friends ex. Whether it's the right thing to do or not, someone is going to get hurt, and tough decisions will need to be made.

An evolving romantic connection with two consenting people is like a magnetic force that grows stronger and stronger as every day passes. Trying to keep them apart because of previous associations is only delaying the inevitable.

Is such an act of controversial romance a blatant act of deception, or do the new couple have every right to think of themselves and move on to form new love? Does this simply come down to two single people hooking up, and any ex partners should just have to learn to deal with it - is it that simple?

By getting together with your friends ex, you really are changing the dynamics of your social life. By making such a decision you need to steel yourself for a possible backlash and should be prepared to except any consequences as a result of this decision - but think long and hard about this choice before you go there.

Moving forward in the right direction with this situation can often be achieved by simply applying the most logical methodology. Put yourself in your friends situation - how would you like to be treated in a reverse situation. If there has been some chemistry building between the ex and friend for a while, a few months of staying at arms length is probably - the right thing to do!

Apart from the potential fall out you face directly from your friend, dating your friends ex has the potential for many other pit falls people don't often consider or think of. What about once mutual friends? and turning up to functions where you see full view of your ex and friend together in love. Do you retain the once mutual friends, or does your ex? History will show, that initially, it's extremely difficult for you and your ex to maintain the same group of friends you once shared.

Let' say in an unlikely event that the three of you decide to try and remain friends through this new and somewhat unusual situation, will your ex be tempted to fall back into the old security zone, and come running to you in times of trouble - will your ex be able to completely cut and run while ever you are in the picture?

To try and uphold friendships by associating ex lovers into the equation is something only a rare few could ever hope to achieve. Everyone involved will need to except change whether it be good or bad.

So by approaching this tricky terrain in a tactful and upfront manner, you still have a good chance of maintaining friendships that otherwise would be in jeopardy if you dealt with such an important issue in an underhanded manner.

Having said that though we say, go for it, date your friends ex, your friend doesn't have any claim of ownership over anyone, but do stop and think of the best way to minimize the fall out.

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