Moving on after rejection.

Published: 16th September 2009
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Falling for someone that hasn't fallen for you is one of the most emotionally painful experiences a human can face. It gets you at your core. But it's an inevitable part of life for us all.

Talking about it with a sympathetic friend really helps to get things in perspective. It can be like taking a load off your mind and heart. Psychologists commonly advise not to take rejection personally, and this is the key to moving on and regaining your strength and confidence. To not take rejection personally takes a lot of courage - and honesty. Remember you are a worthy, valuable person. has this advice: "The manner in which we manage rejection is vital in assisting us to keep our self esteem and self-respect. When we are faced with rejection, it's normal to blame ourselves, we start to question our self worth. But realistically it's more often than not the other person's issue, not ours. When we face dis-approval, it's pretty common to make excuses' for the other person as to why we have been rejected. Learning how to move on to the next opportunity is a valuable lesson in life." has these words of wisdom: "The obvious issue when we face rejection is that it causes heartache and depending on the severity, picking yourself up again will take some time. When you convince yourself of something, this is often what you will genuinely consider to be right, so stick by your instincts, because no matter what happens, you will get through this rough patch and move on. It's often helpful to focus on the end of the hurt and pain, try to envisage how things will be when you're past the pain, instead of focusing on the pain itself. There is some reality to the old adage of dusting yourself off and getting back on the horse that threw you. Honing in on the rejection only intensifies the pain."

If you've never experienced what it's like to face utter failure, health researches in the U.S. have concluded that this group of people protect themselves leading a sheltered, protective life - almost like some sort of personal security mechanism. There is a wise old saying 'I have no plan, nothing can go wrong' - if you've never felt true rejected or have never had to rebound back from rejection, then you probably haven't taken enough risks. Taking risks in life is the only way in which to succeed at your goals, and learning how to take the rough with the smooth will see you achieve triumph among failure.

When it comes to meeting new people, no fear of rejection (socially) is greater than trying to break the ice with someone of the opposite sex. Socializing on the internet puts a temporary personal barrier between online singles removing some of the anxiety faced by chatting someone up face to face. When you join one of the online dating websites , there is no need to be afraid, it's a different ball game to offline dating and could well be your solution to gaining back some self confidence.

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